Helping you ... Helping yourself

Marriage Counseling
and Couples Counseling

I work with couples in all stages of relationship from dating to remarriage.

This includes:


"Lynne and her insights into understanding human behavior was the saving grace in my relationship. I really came for closure to my marriage. But instead, I found that it still contained a profound love that was misunderstood and untapped. Lynne's ability to quickly identify the challenges and communicate options in ways that were straight-forward and reasonable has taken my marriage to a whole new level. Thank you for your persistence, insights and abilities to help me make changes in my relationship." -JDB

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I also offer COUNSELING FOR INDIVIDUALS.

Couples in marriages and committed partnerships are now demanding more from their relationships than ever before. They no longer come together for the sole purpose of creating a family, or for economic and social survival. They want to have greater intimacy and deeper connections but often don't have healthy models or guidelines to know how to create what they want and need.

Very often couples who love and care about each other are caught up in the power struggle stage. Communication has broken down and it has become hard to talk about real feelings and concerns. Sometimes trust has been violated. Sex is almost nonexistent. Life events such as work-related stress, or an illness have overwhelmed them. Their needs are not being met.
They don't feel heard or understood. They are having the same fights over and over again but the arguments are getting more intense, and more frequent. They try to work things out on their own but they end up more angry and frustrated than if they hadn't tried at all.

All couples hit roadblocks along the course of their marriage. When they can't find their way beyond these obstacles through their own trials and errors, or through the help of family and friends, working with a trained professional can be of vital importance. With effective counseling there is a potential not only to renew your love and connection with each other, but also to forge an even stronger and healthier relationship than before the problems began.

My goals in therapy with couples is to provide a setting in which both partners can safely explore their relationship, gain insight into their differences, and create their desired change. For lasting change, both individuals must take responsibility for their role in what has gone awry because they are the co-creators of their relational system, and ultimately,
no one party is at fault. However, even if only one person is willing to change, the system will also change.

"For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation. It is a high inducement to the individual to ripen…a great exacting claim upon us, something that chooses us out and calls us to vast things."
-Rainer Maria Rilke

The Process

I offer a free half hour consultation so that both of us can determine if we are a good fit. During this time I learn what is troubling you and you gain a sense of who I am, how I work, and if you feel an intuitive sense of safety and trust with me. If you choose to work with me, I will give you a questionnaire to take home and fill out. This form is designed to give me background information on you, and to help you set the goals that you want in our work together. If therapy is successful, how will your life be different? I also ask you to take two online Enneagram tests to help guide us towards knowing your personality type and instinctual preferences. I use the results of both of these tests to more efficiently and skillfully assess the dynamics of your situation.

The first 1-3 sessions are dedicated to getting a good history which will provide a foundation for our work together. I want to know details about the difficulties you face and the situation you are in. What have you tried?
What has worked/failed? For more in depth work, I want to know about your family of origin, your past relationships, and any traumas or attachment injuries which you may have experienced.

Once we have developed this strong foundation for our therapeutic relationship, and after the background data is in, we go into what I call the "working mode." Now we begin to work directly with the issues you are struggling with and begin to move towards the goals you have established. We work with your dreams and your struggles, with what has surfaced from the previous session, with what is showing up in your life as fate. After over 30 years of helping other clients, I have a full tool box of techniques, models, and practical experiences to draw from to help you reach your goals.

I recommend a minimum of 6-10 sessions for you to experience real change from this process. Deeper characterological transformation is more of a
long-term therapy and typically can run from four months to several years depending on the degree of change wanted and the level of health that the personality starts with.

Practical Details

My sessions are 50 minutes. Longer sessions are available when needed.

Phone sessions are available upon request.

I recommend weekly sessions for at least 3-6 weeks to begin to get our therapeutic pot simmering. Once we are at simmer, it is fine, and sometimes even valuable, to go to biweekly sessions so you have time for practicing and integrating the new possibilities. When we have moved through the initial presenting issue, and your goals have been met, we check to see if other issues are surfacing and if new goals are appropriate. When we feel satisfied that the work you have come into therapy to do is complete, then we go into an integrating, maintenance phase and begin the process of moving towards closure. Now we might meet on a monthly basis, maintaining contact to assure that progress is still being made and to fine tune the final changes.

Some clients come back periodically for what we call their "tune up".
We check for ways they might have regressed into old patterns and habits, then work to correct their course before it becomes a seasoned pattern. Sometimes therapy can be like peeling layers of an onion in which a client comes in, does a piece of work, returns to their life to fully integrate this change, then returns either weeks, months, or years later to work with the next layer.

I am in my office on Tuesdays, Wednesdays, Fridays and Saturdays,
with evening hours on Tuesdays and Wednesdays.

I accept credit cards, cash and checks. My fees are negotiable based on need.

INSURANCE

I am an "out of network" provider. How this works is you pay me directly
and I give you a statement which you can submit to your insurance. Often insurance will pay 50% of the cost. Check with your insurance company for details of your coverage.



NEXT STEP

For a free half hour consultation to see if individual or couples counseling
can help you, click CONTACT ME, or call my voicemail at 3034472987.
To see what my clients are saying about my work, click on TESTIMONIALS.
For further details about my life and career path, click on ABOUT ME.


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